It's like you have to take the first step and what you need you find. I have just been experiencing burnout without actually thinking it's burnout and your words dear Jana just add up rightly for me. Emotional exhaustion and decreased sense of accomplishment š
Time to unlearn so many things..thank you Jana šāļø
Thank you for sharing, Saima. I'm sorry you've been experiencing burnout. It's a sneaky feeling and state that comes up suddenly, but in fact, it's been creeping for a while. We often think that work is the main cause of burnout, but as you mentioned, you relate to the 'decreased sense of accomplishment'. This can often happen here on Substack, too, if we're not careful.
Absolutely Jana. We need to zoom out. Breathe and reflect. It's going to be okay. We are doing our best or atleast trying and that's what matters. Progress and rest go hand in hand. Need to pause sometimes and it's much needed! Thank you for a beautiful reminder š
This... "When you actually stop and look at what's stressing you out, half the time, it's just you playing mind games with yourself."
And so much of this comes from the insuppressible need to "people please" we (especially women) are raised with. It reminds me of the phrase, "no one cares about you," which while harsh is incredibly freeing.
Agreed! Thank you for sharing Lisa-Marie. It also applies within a corporate environment by blindly following those 'unwritten' rules that have settled in and no one dared to question.
This really hit home for me. I was always the "good" student, the one who strived for perfection. It took me a long time to realize that this constant pressure to achieve was a one-way ticket to burnout city. I'm still unlearning those deeply ingrained beliefs, and it's a process. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in this.
I am not glad you struggle with the same ingrained beliefs, but we connected over them. It is a process, indeed, but it's more manageable when we help each other through work and share some valid lessons. Thank you for sharing, Alexander.
I'm a huge fan of Think Again, and also a huge fan of finding lessons from a book that you weren't expecting to find. Thank you for sharing your learnings and takeaways here!
Here's a radical idea... turn off your email notifications.
Only check in with your email in between tasks, then you can actually get stuff done instead of being constantly interrupted by it. Way more productive and less stressy.
Just try it for one day and see how you feel about it.
This really resonates with me! I'm a big proponent of CBT and use it in one of my stress less workshops that I gave at my office. The book that really got me to realize that stress all comes from me is Wayne Dyer's book, "Being in Balance." When I read this paragraph, it changed my life (for real). "The key to balancing your desire to be at peace with your need to achieve, perform, and earn a living is in recognizing that there's no such thing as stress; there are only people thinking stressful thoughts. It's really as simple as that. When you change the way you process the world, the world you're processing changes." It's so true. When I feel like I'm starting to spiral down a path that doesn't serve me, I remember these words, and I find acceptance and peace. Thank you for your insights Jana. Spot on as usual.
Oh, I love the quote; thank you for sharing, Daria. I might actually screenshot it and post it near my work area. It's such a great reminder that the control lies within us. As always, thank you for your thoughtful comments and kind words.
Resonated with a lot of this Jana and was emphatically nodding along. Totally agree that much (if not all) the stress in our lives is down to how we perceive things. The key is noticing that and doing something about - a lifelong challenge I feel, but one that's definitely worth it. Xx
Thank you, Lucy. I am glad to hear that; nodding along is good!
I totally agree with you; how we perceive things is crucial; on the plus side, it's great news because it is something we can control. The first time (a while back) I learned about perception, I remember it was like a hundred lightbulbs going off in my mind.
Love that! I can't remember when I realised about the whole perception thing, was obviously a slow gradual realisation for me because I don't remember a light bulb moment! X
I really enjoyed this, Jana, thanks so much. Iām going to have a noodle at Adam Grant (Is that right?) nowā¦. And the Sparkle book club (OS that right??)ā¦ cheers
It's like you have to take the first step and what you need you find. I have just been experiencing burnout without actually thinking it's burnout and your words dear Jana just add up rightly for me. Emotional exhaustion and decreased sense of accomplishment š
Time to unlearn so many things..thank you Jana šāļø
Thank you for sharing, Saima. I'm sorry you've been experiencing burnout. It's a sneaky feeling and state that comes up suddenly, but in fact, it's been creeping for a while. We often think that work is the main cause of burnout, but as you mentioned, you relate to the 'decreased sense of accomplishment'. This can often happen here on Substack, too, if we're not careful.
Absolutely Jana. We need to zoom out. Breathe and reflect. It's going to be okay. We are doing our best or atleast trying and that's what matters. Progress and rest go hand in hand. Need to pause sometimes and it's much needed! Thank you for a beautiful reminder š
This... "When you actually stop and look at what's stressing you out, half the time, it's just you playing mind games with yourself."
And so much of this comes from the insuppressible need to "people please" we (especially women) are raised with. It reminds me of the phrase, "no one cares about you," which while harsh is incredibly freeing.
Agreed! Thank you for sharing Lisa-Marie. It also applies within a corporate environment by blindly following those 'unwritten' rules that have settled in and no one dared to question.
The worst sentence ever... Because that's the way we've always done it.
This really hit home for me. I was always the "good" student, the one who strived for perfection. It took me a long time to realize that this constant pressure to achieve was a one-way ticket to burnout city. I'm still unlearning those deeply ingrained beliefs, and it's a process. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in this.
I am not glad you struggle with the same ingrained beliefs, but we connected over them. It is a process, indeed, but it's more manageable when we help each other through work and share some valid lessons. Thank you for sharing, Alexander.
I'm a huge fan of Think Again, and also a huge fan of finding lessons from a book that you weren't expecting to find. Thank you for sharing your learnings and takeaways here!
Thank you for sharing. I finally 'met' someone who is a huge fan of "Think again" š
Here's a radical idea... turn off your email notifications.
Only check in with your email in between tasks, then you can actually get stuff done instead of being constantly interrupted by it. Way more productive and less stressy.
Just try it for one day and see how you feel about it.
This really resonates with me! I'm a big proponent of CBT and use it in one of my stress less workshops that I gave at my office. The book that really got me to realize that stress all comes from me is Wayne Dyer's book, "Being in Balance." When I read this paragraph, it changed my life (for real). "The key to balancing your desire to be at peace with your need to achieve, perform, and earn a living is in recognizing that there's no such thing as stress; there are only people thinking stressful thoughts. It's really as simple as that. When you change the way you process the world, the world you're processing changes." It's so true. When I feel like I'm starting to spiral down a path that doesn't serve me, I remember these words, and I find acceptance and peace. Thank you for your insights Jana. Spot on as usual.
Oh, I love the quote; thank you for sharing, Daria. I might actually screenshot it and post it near my work area. It's such a great reminder that the control lies within us. As always, thank you for your thoughtful comments and kind words.
Resonated with a lot of this Jana and was emphatically nodding along. Totally agree that much (if not all) the stress in our lives is down to how we perceive things. The key is noticing that and doing something about - a lifelong challenge I feel, but one that's definitely worth it. Xx
Thank you, Lucy. I am glad to hear that; nodding along is good!
I totally agree with you; how we perceive things is crucial; on the plus side, it's great news because it is something we can control. The first time (a while back) I learned about perception, I remember it was like a hundred lightbulbs going off in my mind.
Love that! I can't remember when I realised about the whole perception thing, was obviously a slow gradual realisation for me because I don't remember a light bulb moment! X
I really enjoyed this, Jana, thanks so much. Iām going to have a noodle at Adam Grant (Is that right?) nowā¦. And the Sparkle book club (OS that right??)ā¦ cheers